A53. What Are You Wearing?

Personality is the impression that you cast upon people of who you are: it’s the way you present yourself to the world. Character is who you are. Regardless of what you do, your character will always find a way to reflect itself in your personality.

Your clothes can reveal a lot about who you’re. Actually, every way in which you express yourself can say a lot about who you are. However, this post is about what your clothes can reveal about you. It’s interesting how, a study of fashion is also a study of human behaviour.

Have you come across people who wear everything of the same colour? Maybe it’s a man who wears a white shirt with a white trouser? Maybe even his shoes are white! Maybe, even his fashion accessories are white. I’ve a theory: maybe, this is a reflection of alignment in their thoughts and actions; in who they think they are and who they are. This can also be a reflection of the kind of thoughts and beliefs that they have; maybe, their thoughts and beliefs are of the same shade.

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Some people wear colours of similar shades: they pair light colours with light colours, bright colours with bright colours and dark colours with dark colours. I think that this reflects a similarity in their thoughts and beliefs. Perhaps, in their mind, several thoughts and beliefs of similar shades coexist. Also, this can be a reflection of similarity in who they think they are and who they are.

Have you seen anyone who likes to pair contrast colours? Maybe, the preference to pair contrast colours is a reflection of contrast thoughts and beliefs. Maybe, thoughts and beliefs of contrast nature coexist in their mind. Maybe, there’s a contrast in their thoughts and actions; in who they think they are and who they are.

A study of history of fashion can reveal a lot about the change that human behaviour has been going through. A few decades ago, pairing same colours was in fashion. A few years ago, pairing similar colours was in fashion. Lately, I’m seeing too many people pairing contrasting colours.

What do you think about what people wear reveals about them?

 

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Disclaimer: The above mentioned theories are just theories, not facts. This post is written with the intention of initiating a conversation on what people wear reveals about them. Thus, if you’re reading this, please care to comment.

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A52. The Devil Smiled

The night is gloomy;

The streets are quiet.

As the wolves howl,

The moon hides behind the clouds.

 

Alone,

He stands in the darkness,

As though he’s the darkness.

There’s still light in his eyes,

As though there’s still hope for him.

 

A Demon appears behind him,

With a dagger in his hand,

Shouting,

“Kill! Kill! Kill!”

 

The Devil turns around;

There’s fire in his eyes.

He pulls the Demon by his collar, and,

With his wicked smile, whispers,

“Burn them all alive!”

 

 

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PS: I take no credit for the image featured in this post.

A51. Constitution of Aditya Solanki

Article 1

Treat everyone equally. Be humble, respectful and honest with and to everyone.

 

Article 2

Speak less, listen more.

 

Article 3

Live in the moment, be in the now, feel deeply and make mistakes.

 

Article 4

Be conscious of how you’re spending your time and money. Choose investment over expenditure.

 

Article 5

Learn daily, spend time with yourself, build good habits and be consistent.

 

Article 6

Sleep enough, just enough! Take care of your body and mind. Listen to your heart. If you cannot hear the voice of your heart, shut the noises around and in you.

 

Article 7

Shine and let your brightness give light to others. See the good in people and invest in them.

 

Article 8

Push yourself in situations which can make you feel your heart beating against your chest: situations in which you feel excited and afraid at the same time. Be uncomfortable.

 

Article 9

Believe in yourself. Be bold, kind and courageous.

 

Article 10

Say what you want to say in the simplest of words.

 

 

 


I’m currently reading Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. In one of the chapters of the book, the writer advices the readers of the book to write a constitution for themselves: a set of principles and guidelines that one shall abide to. After writing a constitution for myself, I thought that it would be a good idea to declare it to the world so that, every time I violate any of the Articles of my Constitution, I can be made accountable for it.

 

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A50. Home Without a House

Scene 1:

The sky is getting dark and everyone is returning to their house.

He’s sitting on the edge of the road, facing me, oblivious or perhaps least bothered of the danger he’s in: a vehicle can run into him at any moment. He has a packet of food in front of him. I’m sitting outside a café, with a friend, having coffee and a conversation which seems to be shifting from one topic to another. As I see this man, in clothes which are torn and dirty, owning the space he’s sitting in, I wonder if he thinks that he’s sitting in the dining room of his house; he certainly is behaving that way.

He is having his meal with ease, taking his time, cherishing every bite of the food that he’s having. I do not see concern in his eyes for what people around him would think of him. He seems happy and content. He’s probably a homeless man. However, from where I can see him, he’s a man without a house but he has found a home in the space he’s sitting in.

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Scene 2:

I’m taking a walk, late in the evening, trying to organize the thoughts on my mind.

I see a group of children sitting on the pavement around a small screen. It appears to be a TV and the children are seeing a Bollywood movie on it. A woman is sitting just inches away from these children, preparing a meal for her family. She’s probably the mother of these children. It appears to be a scene of a regular household: the children appear to be in the living room of their house and the mother appears to be cooking in the kitchen.

As I walk a few steps, I see a group of women sitting on the pavement around another small screen. They seem to be watching a Bollywood movie or perhaps a TV soap. If we put bricks around them, this would probably look like a scene of a living room of a joint family or a neighborhood where everyone gathers at an individual’s house to watch TV and socialize.

Scene 3:

I’m in an auto rickshaw with a friend, waiting for the signal to go green, heading towards the railway station to board a train.

As I look out of the auto rickshaw, I see a woman lifting her child from a cradle. She’s on the pavement and the cradle is but a piece of cloth tied to the railing on the pavement. I see two kids running around the woman, wanting to play with the baby. As they see that their mother is busy with the baby, they climb onto the railing and into the cradle to swing on it.

They appear to be a happy family, engaged in the regular affairs of their day, oblivious of the onlookers. If a house does not require bricks and walls then this seems to be a scene of a family in their living room or bedroom. From where I can see, this is a family without a house but they seem to have found a home on the pavement.

 

Every time I play these scenes in my head, I can see a thick line between the word house and home. I’m fascinated by how these people have been able to create a home without having the luxury of a house. While house is materialistic, home is a feeling. One can be in a house and yet, not feel at home. One can be without a house and yet, feel at home. One can feel at home with a certain person or group of people. One can feel at home even when he/she is without a house and alone.

The people who live on the roads and sleep on the footpath are referred to as homeless, however, when I think of these people that I mentioned in the three scenes above, I wonder what I should refer to them as: homeless or houseless?

 

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FYI: I take no credit for the picture in this blog post. I found the picture on the internet and I chose to use it to help the readers of this blog relate to the content of the post.

A49. Sugar Leads to Agreement and Consent

I’ve been thinking about whether sugar can influence the probability of giving consent or agreement. I believe that sugar can increase the chances of giving consent or agreement. It’s highly probable! However, it still is a working theory and I’ll have to conduct a few experiments to prove it.

This question of whether sugar can influence the probability of giving consent or agreement first popped up in my mind when I was tossing and turning in my bed in the middle of the night of January 29. I immediately got out of bed to note down the question in a journal that I usually keep beside my bed. The word ‘usually’ is rather misleading; I’ve recently started keeping a journal beside my bed to note down any ideas that would pop up in my mind when I’d be tossing and turning in my bed in the middle of the night. Anyway, the answer to this question came to me when I was taking a shower on the afternoon of January 30. The answer was dopamine and its effect on our thinking process.

I think that the release of dopamine on the intake of sugar makes the System 2 of our mind take a backseat. System 2 is a term used by Daniel Kahneman in his book Thinking, Fast and Slow to refer to a system that’s responsible for the thinking process of our mind that’s slow but rational. System 2 is a lazy critic.

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I’ll have to further study the impact of dopamine on the thinking process of the human mind to understand if it actually influences the probability of giving consent or agreement. If I ever meet you in person, please do not be surprised if I offer you sweets when we have an argument.

Perhaps, you can take sweets with you to board meetings or the next time you want to have a conversation with your boss for a raise in your salary? FYI: I’m proposing that sugar increases the probability of agreement or consent. I hope that you understand the difference between what’s probable and what’s certain. In other words, sugar does not guarantee agreement or consent.

 

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A48. The Actual Definition of Introvert & Extrovert.

Our society is coming up with so many labels lately that it’s become difficult to keep up with them. As a result, we often confuse one label with another and sometimes, we mix the definitions of two or more labels. Sometimes, when we’re been labelled as a certain type, we limit our behaviour to that type and intentionally or unintentionally fit ourselves into the general image of that type. Also, Stereotypes often become identities of a group. Now, though stereotypes are often true, they’re not always true.

Introvert and extrovert are two of the most misunderstood labels. The stereotypical image of an introvert and an extrovert have become their identity and as a result, these stereotypical images have ended up becoming definitions of these terms.

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An introvert is considered to be a person who’s shy and is not really good at small talks. Introverts are considered to be avid readers and they’re either considered to be geeks or individuals who are good at arts. Introverts are expected to be in a library or book stores or in the corner of a café. At a social gathering, an introvert is assumed to be where they’d get little or no attention.

An extrovert is considered to be confident and great at small talks. Extroverts are considered to be energetic and adventurous. Many people think that extroverts love attention. Some think that extroverts are jack of all trades, master of none. Extroverts are expected to be at social events/gatherings, pubs, and places full of people. At a social gathering, an extrovert is expected to be where he/she would get as much attention as he/she possibly could get.

Let’s keep the stereotypical images of introverts and extroverts aside for a while. An introvert likes to spend time with himself/herself; he/she prefers being alone over spending time with others. An extrovert likes to spend time with people; he/she prefers spending time with people over being alone. Everything other than this that you know about introverts and extroverts should either be forgotten or be detached from the definition of these two terms. Introverts can be confident and extroverts can be shy. An introvert can be good at small talks and an extrovert may like to read.

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Now, this blog post is not merely about the actual meaning of the words introvert and extrovert. Like I said in the first paragraph of this blog post, “Sometimes, when we’re been labelled as a certain type, we limit our behaviour to that type and intentionally or unintentionally fit ourselves into the general image of that type.” I do not like to label myself as an introvert or an extrovert. I can be either of them but I’m going to be neither of the two forever. These labels may define me in a moment but they’re not going to be my permanent characteristics. Dare you call me an ambivert!

An extrovert would sometime like to be alone and spend time with himself/herself to get to know himself/herself. An introvert would have times when he/she would like being in the company of other people. Let’s not treat these labels as definite characteristics.

We humans have started putting ourselves in boxes to better understand ourselves and each other; that’s what we always do to make things comprehensible. But in the attempt of doing that, we’re limiting ourselves to certain characteristics. We’re not one thing; we’re numerous things. We’re numerous things, sometimes all at once and sometimes one thing at a time. We may be a particular label for once and we may be a particular label over and over again. What am I trying to say? Okay, let me put this in a nutshell: We’re limitless; we can be whoever we want to be.

 

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A47. To Writer, From Paper

Dear Writer,

I know that if I’d ask you now if you still consider me your friend, you’d say “yes”. However, I wonder if you’d be lying because you do not hang out with me anymore. I’m sure that you’d tell me that you miss me but I do not see you making any attempt to reach out to me and to spend time with me.

I miss you dearly and I’ve made a few attempts to reach out to you but whenever I come to you, you ignore me and give all your attention to your new friend: the one that you now prefer over me. I’m not jealous of your new friend though because I understand that he’s just a new interest of yours like I once was.

You know, I’ve been through this numerous times already. People come to me because I’m a good listener, they tell me everything that they’ve in their mind. I do not interrupt people when they’re talking with me and I never judge them. Actually, most of the people talk at me instead of with or to me. But I allow people to open their heart to me and feel light.

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I can see why you prefer your new friend over me. He can entertain you and he gives a lot of his attention to you. Excuse me for being blunt and straight but I think that your new friend is only spoiling you with all the attention that he’s showering on you. Your new friend is like caffeine or nicotine: you’re addicted to him and eventually you’ll regret being with him. You’d want to leave him for your own good but it’ll be really very difficult for you to live without him. I sound a bit jealous now, don’t I?

You know, Friendship Day is not very far. Let’s meet. You can bring your new friend with you: your gadgets.

Lots of Love.

Regards,

Paper (or, as you like to call me, the dead corpse of trees!)

 

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