When a person is suffering from depression, he/she is usually been avoided by people. I read in one of the Freshly Pressed blog on WordPress that people usually avoid the ones who are suffering from depression because they do not know what to say to the depressed person. In that particular blog, the blogger believed that her friends avoided her because they were afraid that they would say the wrong thing.
The above picture shows how a depressed person feels initially when he/she is been avoided.
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I am afraid that that is not the only reason. I think that not everyone avoids the person who is suffering from depression because they believe that they do not have the right words to say to a depressed person. I think that while some actually are afraid that they would say the wrong thing to the depressed person, some do not want to get bored. What I am saying might sound harsh to someone who’s suffering from depression but give me a chance to explain. We are all attracted to things that we find interesting and that is so because what we find interesting is also what we find entertaining. Almost all of us want to stay entertained. But, what we find interesting initially also turns boring eventually. There are many who leave a job that they have been doing from quite a long time because they are bored of what they have been doing and thus, they want to try doing something else. Many of these people were interested in what they were doing for years but eventually they got bored of it. We get attracted to things that are new. I am not using the word ‘new’ in its literal sense. By new I mean something that we have not done/seen before. But, nothing stays new forever. Thus, we get bored of it. That is how what was interesting initially becomes boring eventually. The people who suffer from depression have the tendency of repeating things that they say. They may not say the exact same thing over and over again but the nature of what they are saying stays the same. Therefore, what they are saying may initially seem new and thus interesting but eventually it turns boring as monotonousness is boring. Have you ever observed what people say post a break up? A person is likely to suffer from depression after breaking up with someone that he/she loves. They may not suffer from chronic depression but they are likely to suffer from a level of depression that is fairly low. Post break up, one usually talks of the moments that he/she had with the one they broke up with. Post break up one talks of how much he/she loved the one he/she broke up with and talks of what all he/she did for and/or with the one he/she broke up with. Post break up, one says the same thing over and over again. One may not say the exact same thing but the nature of what they’re saying stays the same.
The above picture shows how a depressed person feels eventually when he/she is been avoided.
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If you have observed, you would know that your friends and family would listen intently to what you’re saying in your initial post break up stages but eventually all get bored of what you are saying. That is so because they’re bored of what you’re saying over and over again. You may get upset on knowing that everyone is bored of what you’ve been repeating over and over again, probably in different ways, but if you try to understand their situation, you would know that monotonousness is boring and the ones who are not depressed keep seeking for something new. It is difficult to bear with boredom. Thus, while some actually are afraid that they would say the wrong thing to the depressed person, some do not want to get bored.